Over at Reclusive Leftist, the fabulous Donna Darko has reminded me of a book that needs to be read now more than ever.

Hothead Paisan, Homicidal Lesbian Terrorist.

About two years ago, I let the Kid read it. I think that is why he proudly claims feminism at the ripe age of 13 and is much better at observing and calling out the horrors of the patriarchy than most fauxgressive blogger boyz are.

So if you’re pissed, angry, can’t think of anything nice to say- read this book and feel better. Or feel more homicidal. Either way, you’ll get the endorphins back into your brain to clear out the despair.

then why are they trolling like jilted, psychotic ex boyfriends?

It’s not just my blog that has had to turn the comments mod on because of trolls and stalkers. Uppity had to turn off her chat function because the TrollBots decided it was a good place to drop perverted and gross comments. MyDD has been invaded. Anglachel had to turn on comment mods. So did BlueLyon- though that’s because of my resident TrollBot stalker. The only reason they haven’t actually taken over at Shakes is cause Liss and the genuine non-trolly Obama supporters over there won’t tolerate it.

This is not the behavior of people who have won, is it? I have seen this kinda of thing before though, from exes who were very unhappy about being exes. Actually, I’ve seen this kind of thing from a vary particular ex who required both a restraining order (from a civil court) and a no contact order (from a criminal court) and actual jail time to stop fucking with me. This is the behavior of disappointed psychos. And I’m not sure what they are disappointed about but I think Anglachel nails it.

The fact that you continue to squall and fuss about Teh Rulz indicates that you know very well that the circumstances of his nomination are artificial. You need to accept that there is a big, fat asterisk next to Obama’s name in the history books

Ah hah. Legitimacy. Obama doesn’t really have it, what with losing the popular vote and finagling the delegate votes for Florida and Michigan. It’s as important in politics as masculine honor is to stalker ex boyfriends.

Both legitimacy and masculine honor are matters of external perception, or how other people see you instead of how you see yourself.

Legitimacy is vital to politics. Being viewed as illegitimate will at best make you ineffectual (Bush) and at worst inspire revolution. With all the legitimacy problems in Florida the last 8 years, I am surprised the entire state hasn’t started it’s own irredentism movement yet.

Masculine honor is the thing that drives those creepy ex boyfriends. While the girl is under their control, their honor is intact. But once she leaves, he needs to find a way to retrieve it, and unlike dignity, honor doesn’t come from inside. If the girl came crawling back to him, begging for forgiveness for not seeing how wrong she was for leaving him, then his honor is returned. You may have noticed this same kind of behavior from the Trollbots, with their “Hillary supporters better beg forgiveness and prove they are real Dems” comments. Rather than act like rational human beings with dignity and walk away, they have to keep pushing and pushing trying to get their honor back. But the more they push the less honorable they are. Horrible catch 22 for them really. Eventually they will either realize the futility (right, cause crazy ex boyfriends do that alllllllllll the time)or they will explode with obsessive violence, or they will find a new victim.

But this all hinges on the original legitimacy problem. For stalker boyfriends, lack of self esteem makes them control freaks. Since they don’t believe they are really worthy of the girl they will eventually stalk, they try all measures of ways to keep her from leaving. Again with the catch 22 stuff, any healthy girl will buck under a control freak and leave.

So back to politics. The Obama camp, knowing that it can’t win in a fair election, sets up measures to control the outcome. Voters in FL and MI along with 18 million Hillary supporters buck at the control measures. Obama gets the nomination but loses the girl (or in this case, MI, FL, and 18 million Hillary voters).

So now that legitimacy and the girl are gone, the TrollBots are doing everything they can to get back their honor. Threats, harassment, obsessive trolling, occasional moments of clarity where they try to act nice only to blow up the second a problem with the legitimacy of the campaign is mentioned. Mostly they act like assholes in the hope that eventually they will wear us down so we will give them what they want. Legitimacy and their manhood back.

And the more they use these measures, the more entrenched we girls become in our decision to leave. And so they push harder, troll more, threaten more. And we become more entrenched.

And lemme tell you- I lived through YEARS of being stalked and harassed and threatened already. I know I can tough it out and last longer than these yahoos. Do I like it, no. Is it an ideal way to live, no. Can I handle it- OH HELL YES. And I suspect there are a large number of Hillary voters who feel the same way.

The email address I am supposed to use to report cyberstalking to the FBI (Hi Matthew! You’re getting reported!) is broken.

Fuckles.

But I do still have a working telephone number.

This is how Obamabots will not be getting Clinton voters to change their mind:

Stalking, impersonating, or lying

Racism or Classism

Misogyny, misogyny and more misogyny

Bullying and astonishingly bad sportsmanship

Race baiting

Hypocrisy- seriously you cannot pretend to love democracy and respect the vote if you also claim that what happened to Michigan and Florida was just and fair. I’m way to lazy right now to go pull out the mountains of quotes from Obama supporters at the RBC meeting that said the same thing “We respect the right to vote above all else, but the rules!”

No – there is little that can be done to change my mind. But I do promise that if you boyz can chill with some of the above, I promise not to perpetuate ratfucking rumors. And maybe not rub it in too hard in November when you lose.

Really, right now it is much better that you bully types leave me be. I am trying to decide if I am just going to ignore the election and vote Green or if I am going to actively campaign AGAINST Obama. The more you fuckers bug me, the more I want to undermine you.

I’ve had this song stuck in my head for weeks.

I bet you all can guess why.

This is a thing that has been heavy on my mind lately. This idea. This question. How do we get equality for everyone?

I know what we shouldn’t do. We don’t do the scale balancing act where we take from one group to give to another, or as with the civil unions and gay marriage, where we give the almost but not quite version of equality to balance the scales. Those are the actions that will keep us fighting forever. Even if the scales are in balance, you still had to take more from one side or give more to the other, and all that does is create resentment.

Real equality doesn’t work like that. It either is or isn’t. It isn’t partial equality, half equality, some equality.It either exists or it doesn’t.

And real equality doesn’t take from one group to make another group better. That is scale balancing. Real equality makes everyone better off.

Let’s look at feminism for example. The argument against is that it takes from men the “right” to control women. Actually a lot of the arguments I hear are from boyz who think that feminism is code for misandry and what we really want is a horde of slave men doing all the work while we eat bon bons and steal their money and have hairy legged, fat, prudish, lesbian orgies.

But that’s not what feminism actually does. Feminism relives men of some of those stressful things they have been forced to carry alone for generations. They no longer have to be the sole support of their families. They have more choice in careers because they can choose what they want over what pays better. They have better relationships with their kids and wives. They have a support system instead of being the sole support. They can choose not to have kids or to marry. They aren’t going to get stuck married to the first girl they sleep with because of faulty (or no) birth control and a shot gun wedding.

And rights for LGBT people is one I really can’t understand people having a problem with. It really doesn’t impact anyone except LGBT people. Gays marrying doesn’t mean straight people can’t. Trans people being treated like humans doesn’t mean cisgendered people are going to be treated like animals.

Now racism, well that’s a tough one. We’ve built an entire economy on racism (and the unpaid labor of women, but that goes under feminism). Seriously- take a look at the prison system. One entire industry fueled by the incarceration of mostly poor people of color.

So how do we get equality for everyone when we have an economic system based on inequality? We don’t get it by taking money and resources from one group of people to give to another group. That’s scale balancing. All it does is create resentment. We need to come up with a way to increase the resources for everyone.

Universal opportunities is one way to start. If everyone had access to universal pre-k, universal higher ed, universal health care, that would o a long way towards equality.

Universal- for every one, that’s the important part. I can guarantee that if you took the most racist cracker you could find and said “I am going to promise you the opportunity for a secure job with enough money to live on, a pension, universal health care and the chance for your children to improve their lot in life with free college- but I’m also giving that opportunity to every black person” the cracker would not turn it down. Actually, they haven’t. Social Security is one of those universal programs and I haven’t heard of anyone sending back their social security check because their worst enemy gets one too. That is equality, not scale balancing.

the PUMA party (that would be Party Unity My Ass)

You can see the fab new logo here

After seeing an Army recruitment commercial tonight the conversation went like this:

Me: Dude, McCain is going to be the next president so you HAVE to do well enough in school to get a scholarship and go to college or you will be fighting in whatever war he starts next.

Ms. J: Really, you think McCain is going to win?

Me; Yeah, that’s a given. The only person who consistently beats McCain is Hillary. Obama occasionally beats him, but that’s before the Republicans and media start tearing him to shreds. Obama’s toast. But Kid, I’m serious. If you don’t have perfect grades you are going to get drafted into a war. Do you understand?

Kid: Yes Mom. But is there any chance Hillary could be the president?

Me: Realistically, only 1 in a thousand. But we’ll keep fighting for her.

A McCain presidency is going to cost me way more than it will cost most of you. We are already at the bottom of poverty. And I have a child who will graduate high school in 2013. He is prime war fodder.

I don’t want things to get worse for us, but i am willing to sacrifice in the short term (hell, what’s another 4 years of struggle after 8)in order to have real improvement. Real democracy. Real equality. Real opportunity. Not some dog and unity pony show without a chance of winning the White House of of making things better if they do win. The Democratic party is starting to remind me of the pigs in Animal farm. Meet the new boss, same as the old boss, but they were blue instead of red.