still has me locked out so I can only post via email. Argghhhhhhh

I can’t tell you how many time I’ve had the conversation with well-intentioned, environmentalist “progressive” folks about this one little (huge) bit of “common sense” wisdom. I’ve heard “Well we all know that the earth is overpopulated” and seen people who sneer “!@#$ breeder” when they see a poor woman with a couple of kids.

The planet isn’t overpopulated. There is a resource distribution problem, with the vast majority of resources going to the wealthy global north, and if the poor used resources at the rate the non-poor do, then yeah we’d be in a fuck of a lot of trouble. Thankfully, Sociological Images has a guest post about the exact same perception problem. In the future I may just tattoo the link on my arm so I don’t have to type this again.

Us poor folks, either domestically or internationally, have a fraction of the resource foot print that non-poor people do. We own fewer (or no) cars and walk or use public transit. We own fewer electronics and are more likely to get them second hand. We own fewer articles of clothing, eat less meat, etc etc etc all because these things are fucking expensive and every penny counts.

Now this doesn’t mean I don’t full-throatily support programs that give poor women (domestically and internationally) more control over their own reproduction and family size. Everyone should be able to choose if, when and how many children they want responsibility for. But I don’t support reproductive freedom as some backhanded form of eugenics because I’m scared of a brown menace. And that is what arguments about overpopulation often sound and look like.

And the coffers are pretty darn low. Rent and phone bills are due in the next 10 days and groceries must be bought. If you’ve got something to share, please throw it in the pot.

I now have enough money that if I don’t spend a penny of it, I got rent and phone covered. But I do have to buy groceries and do laundry, so more than a penny will be spent.

And off topic but Blogger is being a fucking tool again. Apparently it’s not letting a huge chunk of people log in to their dashboards, so I’m posting via email. Fucking Blogger, WTF?

So I made this little comment to Ouyang Dan today “There are all these new bands that I like, but then I see their videos and realize the musicians are super young and I feel like some weird old lady trying to be down with the hip kids”

Whatever, I coined the phrase discopunk! I think I am allowed to enjoy the junior members of the genre. I mean the music of the junior members of the genre.

So I haven’t updated ye old blog since Myspace was a thing and judging by the cluttered template it’s looking a little Myspace-ish. At least I don’t have loud, obnoxious music that blares at you as soon as you type in the address.

So I need to update, streamline, yadda yadda yadda. Maybe it’s time for a new header even. But that sounds like work.

So instead, let’s update the blog roll. If you’re not on it- leave a link. I’ve been trying my damnedest to share the love with other blogs that link here, but I’m not catching all of them in a timely fashion. Apologies! Also if you drop me a link I’ll throw you in my reader and read ya on the regular.

(This includes you Tata. I need to retract my Rick Bayless love and can’t do it without your post.)

Go read.

I could go into how treating oppressed groups as less than, even if your intent is good (roads to hell and all that) is problematic at best. Ladies are delicate creatures not suited to paid work, brown folks are ignorant savages who need to be civilized, poor folks are huddled masses yearning to break free. Of course those characterizations remove agency, as if those huddled masses at Ellis Island didn’t use any courage, bravery or fortitude just crossing vast oceans on the chance at a better life. Noooo, they huddled and yearned and waited for the loving arms of Lady Liberty and Uncle Sam to carry them to destiny. Those brown folks couldn’t possibly had a civilization of their own prior to colonization and slavery. Those delicate ladies would be too worn out by a job, but running a home and raising children isn’t really work.

Poor folks, we don’t need or want your pity. We want our labor to count for just as much as your labor does. We want our kids to have the same chance at schools and jobs and all good things that yours do. We ain’t weak.

I may have occasionally been called a cold-hearted bitch and I would prefer that people continue with that impression. So the fact that this little video just made me blub like a giant baby is just between me and you, and you, and you. Shhhh.

(I’m also a sympathetic cryer. Can’t help it. If someone gets weepy near me I go all waterworks. That is also a big secret.)

LUCK – NYC Wedding Proposal from Aria Melody DJ on Vimeo.

(and yes h/t to Jezebel. And yes I know that site is problematic.)

One of the first and MOST important lesson anyone doing any kind of social justice/anti-oppression work needs to learn is the difference between an institutional problem and an individual problem. Actually, most people understand the difference in a vague sort of way. Where they get tripped up is on the solutions to those things.

Institutional problems are structural in nature, meaning they aren’t the result of one person going wonky but of the whole system being skewed. All oppressions are institutional, ALL OF THEM. That means that no amount of bootstrapping will end poverty, no change of clothing or teetotaling will prevent rape, no new technology or drug will stop abelism. Suggesting that some individual action will fix an institutional problem is like putting up new curtains so your neighbors won’t see your house burning down.

(Mild aside- when I was a wayward teen I used to like the song Institutionalized by the SoCal punk rock group Suicidal Tendencies. Back then I just thought it was a great fuck you to silly grown ups. While thinking about this piece I got that song stuck in my head and now I am thinking that perhaps there was more to that song. Perhaps.)

Some examples of institutional problems and their “common sense” individual “solutions” (yes that’s an overuse of scare quotes. Suck it.)

Climate change- let’s all recycle!Become locovores! Drive hybrids!. The truth is that without institutional reforms that drastically change the structure of society (how we make energy, what requirements we have for manufacturers, etc etc) then we can all sort all the trash, compost and recycling that we want but we’re still going to have climate change. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t recycle at all, but don’t let that small individual action obfuscate the bigger institutional problem.

Teen Pregnancy: Use condoms. Yeah that’s only part of the reason for teen pregnancy. Poverty, birth control sabotage, older boyfriends with coercive power, a (usually realistic) view that there really isn’t really any benefit to waiting till later to parent, and lack of abortion access are all part of it. Notice that most of these things can’t be solved by an individual, let alone a teenage girl child. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t provide comprehensive sex ed and access to birth control, but it does mean we should shut the fuck up when it comes to shaming teenagers who decide to parent. That shit don’t fix the problems.

Disability access: Let’s find ways to unbind the wheelchair bound! Wheelchair users aren’t bound. They’re not some damsel in distress tied to the railroad tracks by Snidely Paralysis waiting to be rescued by Dudely DoWright and his Be Healed and Walk Again powers. They need the same things everyone needs, to be able to get through doors and into buildings, to cook meals and take showers and clean their clothes. New technologies are great for individuals, but the focus should be on ensuring universal design practices are universally applied. And disability doesn’t begin with blindness and end with wheelchair users. There are so many different ways a person can be cut off from the basic world that a one size solution would fail.

Chopping onions while dancing to the Gossip is a good way to lose a finger. (Of course not dancing while listening to the Gossip is a scientific impossibility).

And how fucking awesome is Beth Ditto? About a thousand million points of awesome (also a scientific fact)